Tips Memilih Jurusan Karir yang Tepat #TalkAboutPsychology

Hallo! Salam sukses untuk semuanya.
Bagi kalian yang saat ini masih sekolah apalagi di jenjang tahun terakhir entah itu di SMP ataupun SMA, seringkali akan merasakan kebingungan dalam memilih karir/sekolah yang sesuai dengan diri kalian. Beberapa tips dari Kak Nixie berikut ini semoga bisa bermanfaat ya supaya kalian gak bingung-bingung lagi :)

Kenali lebih jauh tentang diri kalian 
Cara paling mudah adalah dengan melihat apa sih yang menjadi kelebihan, kekurangan, serta minat kalian. Darisitu, nantinya akan lebih mudah dalam menentukan pilihan jurusan/sekolah yang tepat.


Hindari ikut-ikutan teman 
Masa-masa sekolah memang sangat menyenangkan, bukan? Seringkali pasti ada perasaan takut atau khawatir nanti akan terpisah dengan teman-teman yang udah klop dengan kamu. Perasaan seperti itu wajar saja karena kalian tentu akan merasa sedih kan kalau harus berpisah dengan teman yang sudah kalian anggap nyaman. Tapi cobalah untuk berpikir lebih panjang lagi untuk diri kalian, bahwa tidak selamanya semua hal akan dilakukan bersama-sama, termasuk dengan ikut-ikutan teman ketika memilih jurusan/karir. Dampaknya akan sangat besar ketika kalian menjalaninya, terlebih lagi kalau jurusan yang kalian pilih itu ternyata nggak sesuai dengan kemampuan/minat kalian. 

Cari tau informasi seluas-luasnya
Semakin kalian tau informasi tentang jurusan/sekolah/karir yang akan kalian jalani, semakin membuka wawasan kalian juga tentang hal itu. Selain itu, kalian juga akan dapat melihat gambaran tentang hal tersebut dan merefleksikan terhadap diri kalian sendiri apakah hal itu sudah sesuai dengan minat atau kemampuan kalian sendiri

Berkomunikasi dengan orangtua
Orangtua memang memiliki andil besar ketika kalian akan memilih satu jurusan/sekolah tertentu. Kalian bisa lebih mendapatkan arahan yang sesuai serta sharing pengalaman dengan orangtua sehingga juga bisa menambah informasi seluas mungkin

Kalian bisa meraih itu semua selama mau berusaha
Yang terakhir, ketika sudah mantap dengan jurusan/sekolah/karir itu, berusahalah semaksimal mungkin semampu kalian sehingga bisa meraih apa yang kalian inginkan. 

Tetaplah semangat dan optimis dalam meraih cita-cita ya! Semoga sukses ;) 


Salam,
Nixie Devina Rahmadiani, S.Psi 

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#TalkAboutPsychology : Stop Violence Against Children!

Berbicara tentang bagaimana cara mendidik anak yang baik memang tidak akan pernah habisnya. Pada dasarnya anak lahir dengan potensi dan kemampuan yang dimilikinya masing-masing dan semua orang tua menginginkan buah hatinya untuk bisa bertumbuh dan berkembang dengan baik. Setiap orang tua pun juga memiliki pola asuhnya yang bisa berbeda satu sama lain. Sayangnya, bahkan sampai saat ini, banyak orang tua yang masih menerapkan cara didik anak dengan cara yang keras. Padahal secara psikologis, cara tersebut bukan cara terbaik untuk mendidik anak karena dampak dari kekerasan itu sendiri sangat luar biasa. 

Semoga bisa jadi renungan untuk Ibu-ibu yg punya anak kecil (meskipun sy sendiri belum punya anak ya) tapi saya merasa kasihan dan miris setiap kali ada Ibu-ibu yg hampir tiap hari "doyan" memarahi anak, yg menurut saya caranya berlebihan.

Oke, di satu sisi memang "memarahi" anak *yg tentu dalam batas wajar*, ini juga sebagai bentuk mendidik anak supaya dia tau bagaimana berperilaku yg benar, karena memang pada dasarnya pendidikan pertama seorang anak itu dari lingkungan keluarga. 
tapi di sisi lain, ketika para ibu-ibu ini memarahi anak dengan cara yg berlebihan, bahkan sampai ke arah kekerasan dalam bentuk perilaku, yg kalo kata Pak Ericson krisis perkembangan anak umur segitu bisa mengembangkan rasa inisiatifnya atau justru malah mengembangkan rasa bersalah dengan dirinya sendiri (initiative vs guilt). 

Maka, ketika seorang Ibu memarahi anak dengan cara yg berlebihan, hal tersebut bs jadi akan membuat si anak merasa bersalah. Dan jika hal itu terus menerus terjadi, bukan tidak mungkin anak tsb akan tumbuh menjadi anak yg selalu diliputi perasaan gelisah karena merasa tidak dimengerti. Bisa dibayangkan jika hal itu terjadi?

Saya bukan bermaksud menggurui, hanya sedikit berpesan untuk para Ibu-ibu di luar sana. Ingat lho Bu, kekerasan itu bentuknya tidak hanya berupa tindakan aja, melainkan juga bentuk verbal. Dan kekerasan itu bukan solusi yg "ampuh" untuk membentuk perilaku anak agar sesuai dengan yg ibu atau orangtua harapkan. Stop kekerasan untuk anak dalam bentuk apapun!

Salam,

Nixie Devina Rahmadiani, S.Psi. 

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My Graduation Day. Yippie!!!

It's been 2 weeks since my graduation day, i'll post some picture from the whole day. Graduation Day for me is such a last reward after all my hardwork, so I prepare it well even before I had my final exam btw :)) I looked for some kebaya style, choose the material, brought it to taylor, looked for amazing MUA in Malang wkwk, and many more. So here it is, the result of my preparation. 

From Head to Toe : 

Kebaya : Anggrek Taylor (Bu Wiwik-Malang) 
MUA & Hijab Stylist : @chachamakeup . What an amazing hand from Mbak Chacha who did make up, and mbak i-don't-know-who-is-her-name for styling my hijab :))) 
Shoes : Bellagio 

Oooooh! How i Love this day. 4th September 2016 was really mean for me. 

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My Kind of Spiritual Journey

So many awesome things have happened to me recently and i am really happy about it.
Alhamdulillah i have finished the final project called skripsi and now i'm officialy bachelor of psychology (S.Psi). Yes! Nixie Devina Rahmadiani, S.Psi :) 

It's so unbelievable that i was being the fastest student who can finish skripsi on time :') Since i knew who's my first advisor, i thought that i can't finish it punctually. There's so much things i heard about her. My friends and my seniors told me that my advisor is a perfectionism person and i saw that a lot of my seniors can not pass skripsi on time when they were guided by her :')

I remember when the first time i proposed topic for skripsi. Mrs. Diyah (my advisor) told me that my topic was too easy and USELESS :) Such a lightning and thunder strikes to my head. HAHAHA. For my second trial, i propose quantitative research. Did you know what Mrs. Diyah said to me ?! She said "I approve this topic but make it be QUALITATIVE RESEARCH!" 
I didn't know what i had to do next at that time. I was happy to heard about approval, but i thought qualitative research wasn't easy and it took a long time to do it. 

I still can't believe for what i got now. How can I finish qualitative research fastly ?! How can I finish it on time ?! How can I finish Skripsi while i had problems with my love life and i had to deal with it ?! I know it was really not easy but it's such beyond what i expect. Allah is really good. Alhamdulillah :)

So, After all that i have been through, "THE DYNAMICS OF PSYCHOLOGICAL CAPITAL ON SUCCESS EARLY ADULTHOOD ENTREPRENEURS" literally bring me to this part of my lyf :) 

I am so grateful for everything i got now, and i am so grateful for having good people around me. They gave me a great support for me, send me unceasing prayers. I say thank a lot to all of you. I Love You All ! 

These are some photos from Unforgettable 14th April 2016 :)
 

MY FACE WAS TOO PALE.
THAT WAS BECAUSE TRAGEDY BEFORE FINAL EXAM HELD
I HAD TO PICK UP MY SECOND ADVISOR WHILE IT WAS RAINING :))))

NYOCITS WITHOUT MEGA BECAUSE SHE HAS BEEN IN BALI SINCE A MONTH AGO

MY SORAYA PERUCHA. BESTFRIEND SINCE I WAS ON SENIOR HIGH SCHOOL. WITHOUT RIFFANI

From Left to Right : Dian, Mbak Carol, Me, Erza, and Vonny

28th April 2016

But in the end, all my tears and my sleepless nights was paid off since I am Officially S.Psi :)
It is not the end, but it is the beginning of all. One of my dreams has been caught, there are a lot of dreams i have to catch next. So, Wish Me Luck ! :) 

"Finishing Skripsi is a kind of spiritual journey. Skripsi can change your thoughts, feelings, and your attitudes and behaviours at the same time :)" 

 

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Museums in Kaliurang Area (Jogja Trip Part 1)

I dunno why i really love Jogja. You know that i always spent my year-end holiday in Jogja since the last 3 years. Jogja is very magnificient city, especially for me and my mother. My mother said to me that when she was young, she had a dream to continue her study in Jogja, but it had not been come true. I think that is the reason why my mother loves Jogja so much, and so do I. 

Every year, in my family tradition we usually spend our year-end holiday together. Actually, in the end of 2014, we had a plan to spent our holiday in Bali. But something had happened so we cancelled it. As a replacement, we had a plan to go Jogja (again).

At that time, i thought so hard to find a places that we never visit in Jogja. And i remember about one of pretty interesting area in Jogja. It's called Kaliurang. 

You can find a lot of tourism object there. If you interest to have Lava Tour in Merapi Mount, just go to Kaliurang! If you wanna figure out another ambience of Jogja, just take your ride Kaliurang! And here I and my family spend our short holiday in some of Museums in Kaliurang Area. Here they are :

1. Ullen Sentalu Museum 

Jl. Boyong Km 25, Kaliurang Barat, Sleman, Yogyakarta-Indonesia

Phone (0274) 895161

Website www.ullensentalu.com

If you are a javanesse art and tradition lover, perhaps this place will be 'heaven' for you. You must pay for IDR 30,000 for the entrance ticket. It is totally cheap for a very interesting museum! When you entered to the museum, a tourism-guide will accompany you until it last. It takes about 50 minutes to go around the museum. Unfortunately, the visitor is not allowed to take picture in some areas of the museum. Overall, this museum can be another destination when you go to Jogja city. It'll give you different experience after you enter this place :) 

2. Merapi Mt. Museum

Jl. Kaliurang KM 22, Dusun Banteng, Hargobinangun, Pakem, Sleman, DIY-Indonesia

Phone (0274) 896498

It is totally different with what i reviewed above. Here you can learn more about geography. Especially about Mount Merapi. I forgot how much i must pay for entrance ticket here. But i think not more than IDR 50,000. Here some of my photos when i was there:

Those are of some places in Kaliurang Area. Actually, there are still much beauty and interesting place around Kaliurang. Maybe someday i will explore more around there. Amin! :)

Happy traveling!

Nixie

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